Psychology has taught me, and many others, that humans do what they do in order to experience pleasure or avoid pain. And along with that, since we are social animals, we do things not just for OUR pleasure/pain-avoidance, but also for others'.And during that process somewhere, we start accepting pain or giving pleasure a pass so as to please others. And that sometimes is tantamount to saying 'yes' to things you might detest and 'no' to things you might want totally.
Take, for instance, this writing workshop I could have attended today. It was a continuation of another half of it that got done last Saturday (when it was actually supposed to completely get done), and hence commanded an add-on price. I have always been someone who is perpetually in a dilemma or another, and ends up saying yes to practically every second object of gratification. And I said no, with another friend of mine, to the rest of the workshop. That meant we missed out on a LOT. But we had learnt something. And that wasn't enough, but was a lot.
So the next time you say no to tea or coffee or a smoke or a joint or any other crap, remember you aren't alone (that is if you find it difficult saying no in the first place!).
Take, for instance, this writing workshop I could have attended today. It was a continuation of another half of it that got done last Saturday (when it was actually supposed to completely get done), and hence commanded an add-on price. I have always been someone who is perpetually in a dilemma or another, and ends up saying yes to practically every second object of gratification. And I said no, with another friend of mine, to the rest of the workshop. That meant we missed out on a LOT. But we had learnt something. And that wasn't enough, but was a lot.
So the next time you say no to tea or coffee or a smoke or a joint or any other crap, remember you aren't alone (that is if you find it difficult saying no in the first place!).
